What rejection teaches you

August 22, 2024

KATHMANDU – Rejection is one of life’s most painful experiences, but it doesn’t have to define us. From childhood through adulthood, we encounter moments challenging our sense of belonging and self-worth. Yet, if we look beyond the immediate sting, rejection can become a powerful catalyst for personal growth and discovery.

One of my earliest encounters with rejection occurred during an ordinary school day. It was an off hour, and the class was abuzz with activity—playing, chatting, joking around. I was with my best friend when another close friend approached us. As we talked, the two began planning to go to the playground, but I wasn’t invited. When I timidly asked if I could join, my close friend pushed me away. It wasn’t a hard push, but it was enough to leave me awestruck as they walked off without me.

I cycled through a range of emotions—anger, betrayal, sadness, and, most powerfully, rejection. It was one of the first times I had ever felt so excluded, and it left a mark that would influence my understanding of relationships and belonging.

As I grew older, rejection resurfaced in more significant ways. After earning my Master’s degree, I was eager to start my career. I wanted to make an impact and prove myself in a field I was passionate about. But the job search was more complicated than I anticipated. Rejection followed rejection, each one chipping away at my confidence. “We appreciate your interest, but…” became an all-too-familiar refrain, and often, there was no callback.

This string of rejections was a challenging period. I began to doubt my abilities and felt increasingly disconnected from my peers. In a moment of self-reflection, I decided to step outside my chosen path and offer my help in