Seeing children through the storm

July 25, 2024

MANILA – This is my son’s first monsoon season. Loud rumbles of thunder. Flashes of lightning. The seemingly endless sound of heavy raindrops splattering on our window. The southwest monsoon, enhanced by both Tropical Depression “Butchoy” and Typhoon “Carina,” has been going at it hard for the last few days, with more rain still expected up to next week. I’m thankful my baby doesn’t easily get startled by the noise, though he ended up with more fitful sleep. If anything, he hugged and clung to us more as he slept (which we didn’t mind at all).

Other children may not be as lucky. Storms can be frightening for children. At the milder end, the sudden and loud noises can overwhelm their senses, making it difficult to regulate. In some cases, storms can be traumatic. I remember stories from children and youth during Supertyphoon “Yolanda” how the sights and sounds of the howling wind and torrential rain were ingrained in their memories, making them fearful of even milder rain later on. Even without having gone through such a traumatic experience, children’s unfamiliarity with what happens during a storm—and how to cope with any aftereffects—can further amplify their fears. Without any prior experience to compare it to, they are unable to assure themselves that the storm can pass without incident. Catastrophic thinking can occur, where they imagine the worst-case scenario.

How can we help ensure our children’s mental well-being during a storm?

First, do not panic. When children see adults panic, they panic, too. Children look up to us to keep them safe. Depending on their age and development, they may not yet have the skill to regulate their own fears and worries. This is where we, parents, need to help them by